Monday, July 27, 2015

Update - The 5 Love languages

Update from Wednesday, July 22nd

SESSION THREE – 

Love Language Two:
Quality Time

Quality time means giving your spouse your undivided attention.

Dialects of Quality Time
1. Quality conversation

         How to Foster Quality Conversation
         1. Maintain eye contact.

        






        2. Don’t do anything else while you are listening.

         








       3. Observe your spouse’s body language.

         









       4. Don’t interrupt each other.


     





Quality conversation involves self-revelation.

       Two personality types in conversation
        1. The Dead Sea
        2. The Babbling Brook


2. Quality activities

Sunday, July 19, 2015

The Man Next Door: A young man learns what's most important in life from the guy next door.

I was cleaning up some files on my computer and I came across this story that I had saved and used many months ago. As we approach next week's study, I thought this to be appropriate. I hope you enjoy and share....Jim Arrington



Over the phone, Jack Bennett's mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.
"Jack, did you hear me?" "Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said... "Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him.

"I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said.

"You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said.

"He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said. "I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important. Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said. As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown. Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.

The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time.Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time. The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture. Jack stopped suddenly...

"What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked.

"The box is gone," he said

"What box?" Mom asked.

"There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said. It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it. "Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox: "Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read. Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught his attention. "Mr. Harold Belser" it read. Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope. Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside.

"Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett. It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter. His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch.
Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover. Inside he found these words engraved: "Jack, Thanks for your time! -Harold Belser."

"The thing he valued most was... my time"

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days. "Why?" Janet, his assistant asked.

"I need some time to spend with a friend," he said.

"Oh, by the way, Janet, thanks for your time!"
~~~
Think about this. You may not realize it, but it's 100% true.
1. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way..
2. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.
3. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
4. You mean the world to someone.
5. If not for you, someone may not be living.
6. You are special and unique.
7. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you trust God to do what's best, and wait on His time, sooner or later, you will get it or something better.
8. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good can still come from it.
9. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.
10. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.
11. Always remember the compliments you received. And Forget about the rude remarks.
12. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know and you'll both be happy .
13. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great. Do it now!

THANKS FOR YOUR TIME MY FRIENDS!

Friday, July 17, 2015

Update for July 22 - Week Two


SESSION TWO LOVE LANGUAGE ONE
Words
of Affirmation

Words of Affirmation means giving your spouse words that build up.

Dialects of Words of Affirmation
1. Compliments
2. Encouraging words
3. Kind words
4. Humble words

When you make a request, you are affirming your spouse.

How to Learn to Speak Words of Affirmation
1. Make a list of things you like about your spouse.
2. Write one sentence expressing appreciation for each of those things.
3. Pick one thing from your list and share it with your spouse.

How do you come up with ideas of what to say?
1. Write down words of affirmation you hear others say.
2. Write down words of affirmation you read.

Words of Affirmation are a powerful communicator of love

Reminder.....
These languages will help improve your communication with your spouse, but remember the symbolism of the three strand cord in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. God has to be part of your cord (relationship). He is the focal point that brings these languages together.


Things to complete this week:

  • If you have not completed the "profile", find time and finish it.
  • Then, discuss your primary love language with your spouse. These two are imperative to benefit from this study.
  • Read through Week Two.
    • Answer the questions and participation assignments.
    • Read scriptures and pray regarding the message they have for you.
    • Play the "Love Tank Game"!
  • Be ready to share with the group....
    • Any surprises in this week...Good & Bad?
    • Your thoughts about "Words of Affirmation."

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

WE GOT MAIL....

We now have an email address for our WNBS. It is wnbs.fbce@gmail.com . If you have a prayer request, need an answer to a question, or give a suggestion, please contact us at wnbs.fbce@gmail.com


Update for July 15 - The 5 Love Languages


Hope you had a great week and learned more about yourself.

We will be continuing our study this Wednesday.

We will be covering "Words of Affirmation" this week!!!!

For those of you who missed last week and did not get a book, check your email for two attachments. I have attached a copy of the "Profile" and the "Viewer's Guide" for this week.

Just a reminder: you need to complete your 5 Love Languages Profile!



Thursday, July 9, 2015

Review of July 8th - THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

WNBS@FBCE

We had a great kickoff for our new study!
Hope you can join us this Wednesday, July 15th@6PM

The following video clips are a small insight into our first meeting.

The video may not play on your SmartPhone. The best way to view is to go to the WNBS@FBCE Blog (Click here)

























                              
Here is the Viewer's Guide from July 8th
SESSION ONE Learning
to Speak Love

Love is the most important word in the English language.
Love is the most confusing word in the English language.

Inside every child is an emotional love tank.
Adults also have a love tank.

The Five Love Languages
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch


  • Each of us has a primary love language.
  • By nature, we speak our love language.
  • We have to learn how to speak the other person’s love language.
  • When the act doesn’t come naturally, it’s a greater expression of love.
  • Love is something you do for somebody else, not something you do for yourself.


Discovering a Child’s Love Language
1. Observe their behavior.
2. Notice what they request of you most often.
3. Observe them as they play with other children.


If we learn to speak the love languages of our spouses and our children, we change the emotional climate in the home.


CHEAT SHEET!!!!!

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES


Check out the trailer for The 5 Love Languages

Starts Wednesday, July 8th @ 6:00 PM


SEE YOU WEDNESDAY NIGHT!!!!!!!